Those were the good old days when the boyfriend called because he missed his girl, he brought flowers to win her heart and he would take her anywhere she liked even to the dreaded chick flick - all with a happy grin on his face. Then one glorious day, he gets down on one knee and recites a beautiful and romantic speech usually ending with the words, "Will you marry me? "
After the nuptials are announced and the knot is tied however, the courtship seems to become less frequent. However, it still takes place but its not always husband initiated and it usually involves less chick flicks, flowers and happy grins. Then after the kids come along you can simply forget it!
The problem is that you really shouldn't forget it. Courting your wife is a critical part of marriage. Men need to be the initiators because it contributes to the way the woman perceives herself and her value in the relationship. Women who don't get courted in a relationship often feel neglected and unappreciated and this in turn affects the way she begins to view her husband. Husbands will tell you if you ask that the most sexy thing you can do as a wife is to be "in to him." This can be a challenge for women if they feel as though their husbands are no longer interested in them. It therefore becomes a vicious cycle.
How do you break the cycle you may ask? Each party shares in the responsibility of changing the direction of their marriage.
Ladies, make sure you let your request be known and be willing to give suggestions, assistance with sitters or reservations and your opinions. Don't just say, "Whatever you want to do is fine or whatever you get me will be great," if you don't mean it. Tell the truth. Husbands, please remember that there is more to dating than dinner and a movie. It involves romance.
What the heck is romance you may ask? Romance is defined by Merriam-Webster Online Dictionary as trying to obtain favor with someone especially through lavishing attention, gifts or flattery and to carry on a love affair. Now that sounds good to me!